verbs - Why is the past tense used in "I was wondering if you would like to come for dinner?"


Why isn't the present tense used?



I am wondering if you would like to come for dinner.




Answer



Using the past tense is a way of offering flexibility in an invitation or request. You don't need to feel compelled to accept because it is being phrased as a passing thought. A whim.


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